What it takes to be a "GOOD WIFE"?

What it takes to be a good wife???? Hmmmm nice question dba, i got this question from my officemate---Ms. JC, because she plan to get married next year and she's kind of confused how to be a good wife, weird hahahhaa.

I hope my answer will help Ms.JC's;

The big question thrown to all married women by their peers is ARE YOU A GOOD WIFE? There is something awkward about this question in the first decade of the 21st century. the word “wife” on its own sounds quaint enough, and “good wife” conjures up images of blissed-out 1950s housewives. Good wives are what women had to be before we fought for the right to be good at something else. In 2009, a woman wants to be good at her job, a good mother, a good friend, a good daughter, good for her age, good in bed, but a good wife? Do me a favor.

There are things you have to pay attention to in order that the other person feels, well, it’s worth being married.” Is it worth? hmmmmm i guess hehehehe.


1. Make him a priority

Even women who would never call themselves feminists have bought into the idea that men are bottom of the list after their personal fulfillment, fitness routine and, of course, the kids.

2. Have Sex

Almost every woman I spoke to about how to be a good wife mentioned the importance of sex. Sex plays a very crucial role in achieving a happy marriage. If you don't give your partner the best performance in bed, it will create a big gap once your partner fling with another girl, and he found the difference between you and the other girl, so for me, as a man, i prefer girl who is very active in sex and can satisfy my sexual needs. Satisfying your partners fantasy will be of great help so that your bond as husband and wife will be as strong as steel hehehee. Have sex with your partner without hesitations and limitation, explore, do research work, read mags about sex.

3. Beware resentment

Arndt’s theory, and Waldman’s, is that the No 1 reason for lack of sex in marriage isn’t tiredness, but female resentment. Resentment because women “have ended up, contrary to their expectations, living lives disturbingly similar to those of their mother”. Waldman recommends filling in a “who does what?” questionnaire, because it makes you both realize “how much there is to do and how really endless the tasks are”, but she makes the point that sharing the domestic burden, though crucial, is only a part of the solution. We have become socialized to think it’s all about us. Ask yourself, why did I marry this guy in the first place? But the other questions to ask are, why is he married to me? What’s he getting out of it?

4. Be kind and supportive

Support is not only a bonus in marriage, either. The researcher John Gottman, who can predict a couple’s chances of making it with 93% accuracy by observing their style of communication, rates kindness and being supportive as the two factors crucial to long-term happiness. Contempt, defensiveness, criticism and stonewalling are the four guaranteed destroyers.

5. Respect your partner's privacy

Marriage does not mean that you conquer your partner's privacy. You still have to value his privacy, give it to him and give him 99% of your trust. Most of all do not conquer his own identity. If you take it away from him, girl your relationship gonna be in trouble.


Have a nice weekend guys......god bless